Emotional Intelligence

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Never Mistake Stability for Certainty

Reading Time: 3 minutes One of the most common thinking traps that we humans fall into is mistaking stability for certainty. I’ll bet you’re used to things being a particular way. The amount of traffic on your commute. What you do on the weekends. The type of tasks you do at work. How your morning coffee tastes. What’s it …

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Why A Fellow Traveller is More Powerful Than Empathy

Reading Time: 4 minutes Empathy is wonderful, but what’s even more powerful is connecting with a fellow traveller. I learned that from talking to my cousin The picture by the title is a throwback to 2017 when I met up with my cousin Brigette who lives in The Netherlands. We were visiting the Wynand Fockink ‘Proeflokaal’ (tasting room) and …

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75 Ways To Use Your Strengths During The Festive Season

Reading Time: 8 minutes As we move into the festive season, it’s a perfect time to look for new ways to use your strengths to support your wellbeing, create enjoyable celebrations, and help your favourite people in the world use their strengths too. I’ve created a playbook of ideas for how you can use each of the 75 strengths …

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The Best and Wisest Piece of Advice I Ever Received

Reading Time: 5 minutes Back in my early 20s, I was given a piece of advice, and told that it works in every situation that humans face.  I initially couldn’t (or rather, wouldn’t!) accept the idea that it could apply in every context. And I tried really hard to imagine a situation in which it wouldn’t work… but even …

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How to use an emotion wheel to build your emotional intelligence

Reading Time: 6 minutes An emotion wheel is a great visual aid to help us identify how we’re feeling, and also to expand our emotional vocabulary. Being able to identify emotions is a key building block of emotional intelligence. According to PositivePsychology.com, there are around 34,000 human emotions (I’ve collected about a thousand of them in this post). How …

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Emotions list

Reading Time: 4 minutes Emotional intelligence (EQ) is widely recognised as a key factor for leadership effectiveness. Having a rich “emotions” vocabulary is a great way to build your EQ. The emotions list below captures some of the most common words used in English for pleasant and unpleasant emotions. Are there emotions on these lists that you haven’t heard …

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