Reading Time: 2 minutes The old saying “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” gets trotted out all too often when someone is going through a hard time. I don’t think it’s particularly useful. It’s trite and can come across as completely lacking in empathy. I know that’s not necessarily how the speaker intends for it to be interpreted, […]
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Reading Time: 5 minutes The first time I heard the phrase “No is a complete sentence”, it blew my mind. All my life, I’d believed that if I said “No” to something, I had to provide a justification, and that my justification had to be absolutely water-tight. How wrong I was, and how much heartache that belief cost me!
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Reading Time: 3 minutes Fears are a completely normal part of the human experience. Almost every human will feel fear regularly, from the time we are born, until the time we leave this Earth. In the right amount, and the right situation, the right kind of fear can help keep us safe. But the wrong kind, in the wrong
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Reading Time: 3 minutes Which of your recent failures did decide on in advance? I know, you’re probably thinking, “Aren’t I meant to be planning for my successes, not my failures?” The short answer is, “No”! Read on to find out why you need to proactively plan your failures. The importance of planning for your failures If you don’t
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Reading Time: 3 minutes One of the most common thinking traps that we humans fall into is mistaking stability for certainty. I’ll bet you’re used to things being a particular way. The amount of traffic on your commute. What you do on the weekends. The type of tasks you do at work. How your morning coffee tastes. What’s it
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Reading Time: 4 minutes Empathy is wonderful, but what’s even more powerful is connecting with a fellow traveller. I learned that from talking to my cousin The picture by the title is a throwback to 2017 when I met up with my cousin Brigette who lives in The Netherlands. We were visiting the Wynand Fockink ‘Proeflokaal’ (tasting room) and
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Reading Time: 8 minutes As we move into the festive season, it’s a perfect time to look for new ways to use your strengths to support your wellbeing, create enjoyable celebrations, and help your favourite people in the world use their strengths too. I’ve created a playbook of ideas for how you can use each of the 75 strengths
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Reading Time: 6 minutes As Christmas and the New Year draw near, it’s a great time to choose your approach for the silly season. You don’t have to sit back and wait for things to happen to you – you can front-foot the challenges and opportunities of the festive season, to make it your best one yet. In this
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Reading Time: 5 minutes Back in my early 20s, I was given a piece of advice, and told that it works in every situation that humans face. I initially couldn’t (or rather, wouldn’t!) accept the idea that it could apply in every context. And I tried really hard to imagine a situation in which it wouldn’t work… but even
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Reading Time: 6 minutes An emotion wheel is a great visual aid to help us identify how we’re feeling, and also to expand our emotional vocabulary. Being able to identify emotions is a key building block of emotional intelligence. According to PositivePsychology.com, there are around 34,000 human emotions (I’ve collected about a thousand of them in this post). How
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